Tag Archives: Romance
Too Much
After a series of relationship blows that cost her family, business and career, a friend I met some months ago told me that I must not Love too much. She said that with gravity of regret in her eyes. Though she told me her story without going into details, her old emotions quietly emanated from [...]
Love at Second Sight
Love at first sight. People often ask me if I believe on this aphorism. I used to give a neutral answer and refer to Love through my personal insights. Looking back, I have difficulty recalling how I answered, but now that I have an interesting manner of dealing with this saying, it’s good to return [...]
Youth in Love
When most young people I meet hear the word Love, they would often respond in a very interesting way. Teenagers smile gleefully, looking like a blooming flower. The space where we share this kind of conversation is now being charged by a subtle energy from the glow of their eyes. Their stiffness lightens with their [...]
Romantic Opposites
Even if romantic and married couples choose either to make up with or break up from each other whenever they are at odds, it turns out that the myth of Love as romantic perfection is clearly at play. The idea that there should be harmony between them through conforming with each others whims, or the [...]
Romance + Love: A New Equation
I find it very interesting–and existential–to ponder about dried flowers (mostly roses) in most households I visited. Women keep them until they wilt and dry. What was once a blooming, fragrant bouquet now literally turns to dust after several months. But they are still well-kept, often in a long, ribboned box. They seem to appear [...]
Truth: Romance/Love
The truth between romance and Love lies between the myths and facts about them. Finding that romance and Love are equal and not equal at the same time is confounding, but the foremost step is to realize that they are both. Romance and Love are equal to remind us that they are not. It is [...]
Fact: Romance≠Love
The myth ends when the fact begins. This new equation, romance is NOT equal to Love wakes us to sane realities of romance. The first reality is that Love is neither about a perfect person nor a perfect relationship. This statement returns power to well-known cliché, there is no such thing perfect. This is true, [...]
Myth: Romance = Love
I understand the initial hesitation of many people when they read the word romance. First, it could be something so cheesy that there is no more to learn from it. Second, it is something that reminds their past experiences that perhaps brought them disillusionment. Third, there is always an assumption that everyone knows about romance, [...]
Anti-romance
I was once an anti-romance. I hated all things that depict it, like romantic movies, TV shows and songs. Now, I am quite certain that my I share my old aversion with people who are dissatisfied with their romantic relationships. Many of them might have undergone the sweetest romantic episodes in their lives, only to [...]
Beyond Romance
It was in 1956 when Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving was published. After more than half a century, the truth the book conveys remains palpably true. Fromm warned his readers at the beginning of the book: “This book, on the contrary, wants to show that love is not a sentiment which can be easily [...]
